WowI guess I really did need this which was part of Larry’s reasoning to go to Culver Academy for 6 weeks.
I am missing him.
I really miss him.
I have gone through all the phases and am today honoring my feelings of grief.
I recognize that him being away feels differently for me as we lived through the thought that we might loose him.
I am not questioning his fun adventure and ability to be a part of a regular kid camp.
I am simply acknowledging that I miss him.
This is a big transition as he is growing up and his history with the possibility of his loss.
It is in the back of mind and is making me feel very vulnerable.
I am taking today to blog about this to simply let myself be full of my sadness, my grief, and this separation so that I can move on through my day.
What are you pushing down ? What are you not letting yourself feel to its full potential to then allow you to let go ?
I encourage you to embrace your feelings, allow yourself to feel it all, and see what then the day brings forth for you and for me.
How traveling has changed ! Not just the overall change in traveling with new security; baggage fees, no food, smaller seats, longer wait times, no control, but with me it has changed for me personally.
When I was in my 20/30s I so enjoyed traveling. I was what they call today a road warrior and I prided myself on this fact with my platinum status, mileage plus, jumping on flights for just a night and truly enjoying seeing the world all while working.
Once I was married and with the kids the travleing became less and less exciting especially with the changes in the industry and security. That being said I still truly love it.
I have not traveled alone in 2016 for an extensive trip until now. It was interesting because the kids did not want me to leave. They went on an on about how 6 days 5 nights is just too many. They had to drive me to the airport.
As we drove there was tension in car with me ‘controlling’ the schedule while I would be away, feeling the pull, feeling some guilt in leaving….I believe it is the same feeling that most seniors have as they begin to let go and move on thus some unkindness is used to make leaving that less hurtful. We pull up the curb…everyone gets out and hugs me individually and as group as if I am leaving for a very long time. No tears but lots of emotion.
As I walked into the airport it was if I was flying for the first time, leaving the first time and yet this overwhelming feeling of love as well was surrounding me.
Making every day count is the matra and today I ripped the band-aid a bit too strongly yet my little family knows I love them, cherish them, and would do anything for them. They also know I have high expectations for them, believe in them, and have very strong faith.
I flew with a new confidence and conviction that this is what I do need to be all that I am for them….without guilt.
He is not really adjusting to being a regular kid meaning the expectations have been raised, the rules tightened up, and goals lifted. It is time as it should be that you are treated just like a regular kid. He was grounded over the holidays for poor performance at school: grades. This was then compounded by constant questioning of the grounding. The reasoning for the grounding and the fact that was brought up by him countless times that we cannot control the past therefore why does being punished in the future help? As explained that is a consequence. That is what a consequence is a choice I made in the past led me to where I am today thus this is the consequence for the past choices. We will know see what the future will hold. Tough life lessons for the regular kid.
We found out recently we lost a treasure in the health care industry. Tim was our welcome joy on Diamond 6. Larry referred to him warmly. He was always smiling, always welcoming, always calm. I don’t know what happened but it was unexpected.
In the last 4 years we spent over 200 nights in Diamond 6. Tim knew us, we knew Tim. He could have simply stayed in his role but he went beyond.
He got to know us, our visitors, our children. He knew our likes, dislikes, and more importantly felt our fear, hoped our hopes, and cried for others. He served beyond the scope of his role not by physically stepping out but simply by being present every step at every turn in the journey.
I hope he knew how much he meant to us. I’m sure he did. I hope his friends and family know how wonderful he was in his role and making a differ ence in our lives.
Tim was only in our lives because we were there fighting leukemia. He is only in everyone’s life that comes to Diamond 6 to check you in, guide you and stamp parking. He is there as your pathway in and out of the children’s hospital. He made it that much easier to enter and very joyful each time we left
As we would visit our friends in Diamond 6 since then we would see it was great to see them just for a visit not for checking in.
We are blessed to have known Tim. To understand the difference you can make if you choose too, just by showing up,showing compassion, all in the daily living of your role.
Why is it that we constantly believe that we will get a different result. Why do we continue to wait for change that will never occur thus we are disappointed, let down, and once again defeated when it was our time to shine. Out moment and once agin stolen by selfishness, inconsideration, and simple lack of interest. When will I learn. When will I wake up. I think I have but must wait this one out just a bit then I will have my time. My time will be filled with gratitude, happiness, joy, laughter, celebration, pleasure, and cheers. It will be filled with mutual respect, unconditional love, no ,ore I’m sorry a and no more excuses. It will be filled with intentional living. Just wait and see my time. It will come. When?
I was simply awestruck as I’m sure many of you were in the energy around the Powerball lottery
As I’ve never played, I had no intention of playing, and then the more that the conversation kind of turned to that on a regular basis, statistically how you won’t win a one and 290 million chance, and you have a better chance of having a vending machine fall on you and kill you; me not even knowing where a vending machine in my vicinity thinking I would save my two dollars and not play.
Then as I listened to someone say oh the winners are always from some little random town, you know side towns, so as I was passing Toltec, Arizona on Tuesday night I thought let me just stop and buy a ticket.
Once I bought the ticket and actually had some folks with me, as we all had the same opportunity to become a millionaire overnight it’s pretty amazing when you think about the energy that the lottery has, in creating a commonality among all of us for a simple two dollars. We all of a sudden all have the same opportunity.
I found myself as I left Toltec and drove home thinking about what would I do if I won, how would my life change, how would I want to make a difference with the money and then I started thinking about how I really just hope whomever wins….. my hope is that they don’t become the staggering statistic that 90% of all lottery winners are bankrupt within the first three years, 90% of all lottery winners have some type of major change that happens in their Life that is devastating whether it’s loss of a spouse through divorce whether it’s loss of family due to misunderstanding expectations loss of jobs careers and then are able to get a job back stories really are quite devastating that I don’t know that you’d want to win but just the sheer thought of winning and what you could do with that and how maybe we choose to live our lives today not winning the lottery but intentionally living.
I know that it’s definitely made me think about how I spend my money, how I give my money, how I save my money, and the legacy that I want to leave so I wonder if the lottery made you think about any of that and think about the equality and what you would’ve possibly done that’s my thought for the day.
The drawing has been done, the winners announced and yet I feel like I have win with a healthy happy, regualar kid in our son Larry. We have won big !
From Carmen Fowler LaBerge.
Thanks for all the Larry prayers…Tiana’s testimony here is precious
You faithfully prayed for me and my family when Larry was diagnosed with leukemia. You loved us through the valleys and the shadows. While we celebrate the victory, we forget not the lessons learned in pain. Even the scars…
This is Tiana’s “Scarred Beautiful” video. (Warning: tissues recommended)